It's disturbing. It's reality. It's part of our society. It's the Suicide.
My understanding of all the observation that I have collected in all these years is that it's a slow poison. It slowly builds up, paralyses the person, and convinces the mind that there is no other way except death.
Or am I wrong and it's in fact an impetuous thing? Or is it both After all every individual is different.
Whatever the reason is and whatever the way it culminates, judging these people is not the right thing to do.What the right thing here is to observe people who have troubled lives, to an extend that they look depressed all the time, and look for signs. Death wishes, depressing talks are some common red flags that give away the suicidal tendencies.
I was recently asked on Quora by an anonymous person whether he must consider ending his life because everyone calls him a loser.
LOSER! Such a strong word. All of just five letters and can crumble down one's confidence in a jiffy. Imagine what that person would feel after hearing it from more than one person. and perhaps, it might not be everyone calling him but only one person who means the world to him; a parent, girlfriend, boy friend.
Stronger people wouldn't give a damn to it, but not everyone is strong enough to handle certain bumps that show up in our lives. Their heart and mind are vulnerable and can be destroyed by words like LOSER.
It comes upon us, the stronger ones, to look after them...be their cushion.Listen to them, talk to them.
Show them that the grass is not greener in other lawns, but it's our own lawns that need watering, weeding and mowing.
I recently came across the novel (an e-book), "The Story of a Suicide" by Sriram Ayer (Courtesy: Indichange). The book exhibits the dynamics involved with the youth's minds, behaviors, their reasoning, their thought process, their actions, and even their choice of friends/company.
We are taken into the lives of Hari, Sam, Charu and Mani, that are entwined together. Their individual perceptions and actions result in series of rutted events ensuing in a sad corollary, which the title of the story distinctly suggests.It rubs the dark reality of our youth, which lingers around us, right on our faces. Education, relationships, career, sexuality all have become a part of this darkness. Maybe I should say, the darker sides of the challenges found in these. And it's these darker sides that are highlighted by the writer, and he did it very appositely.
The Story of a Suicide unerringly reaches you with these issues, shaking you to the core with the consequences one may face.
The insatiable use of social media that consumes us to the point that we often don't notice the repercussion of our actions through the medium, and this fittingly becomes the part of the story taking it to it's conclusion.
We often tend to vent on social media; what we are feeling...how frustrated we are…whom we are dating…who dumped us, and some such. Less we realize the upshots of these broadcasts that follow, might come along with chaos we don't want to see as our company.
How I keep wishing throughout the read that only if I could get inside the story and talk to the protagonists. Tell them about the red flags, guide them to the right people, the professionals, who are always out there to help.
How I wished I could tell the antagonist to channelize his energies towards right people in the right way and sort out his life.
How I wished I could have saved a life...
Pity, this is not a chapter from the Inkheart.
But in the real world, in our world, we can reach out to such people, and who knows we might save precious lives.
As I write this, the gloom of the story is still latched to me. I chose to read the story instead of listening it on the soundcloud, and I think I did the right thing. Listening to it might have left a more profound impact upon me for days to come.
The illustrations by Ghana, make the story and its execution more intense.
To all the parents, siblings, teachers, friends everyone out there, understand and endure the crux of the story. Its pure relevance to our lives makes it a definite read.
My best wishes to the writer, and rest of the team of the book and all those people who can relate to it at some level.
This post, my thoughts on the book, The Story Of a Suicide, and the issues I discussed were for Indichange (Indiblogger) and NalandaWay Foundation.